Forgiveness: letting go of grudges and bitterness
Updated: May 1, 2019
When someone we care about hurts us, we can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or we can embrace forgiveness and move forward. In this blog, I talk about the secret behind forgiveness and share my daily practice to let go of those feelings that are holding us back.
“Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that their behaviour was ok. What it does mean is that we’re ready to move on. To release the heavy weight. To shape our own life, on our terms, without any unnecessary burdens.” - Dr Suzanne Gelb.
Forgiving is different from forgetting or excusing the harm done to us or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness doesn’t change the past.
Forgiveness is a decision to let go of those painful memories that can otherwise become a toxic and destructive force in our lives. We suffered once, that’s enough.
Here's the very practice I used (and continue to use) to free my heart and my body from those feelings that were holding me back from my happy and healthy self. Enjoy. X
My daily forgiveness practice
Close your eyes.
Breathe in, breathe out, counting up to 10 on the inhale and 10 on the exhale.
Repeat 10 times, focusing on the rhythm of your breath.
Now picture yourself walking on a beach.
Listening to the waves crash against the shore.
Breathing in the salty air.
Feeling the dry, soft and warm sand beneath your feet.
Now sit down on the sand, near the water.
Using your index finger, write down on the sand the name of 10 people you want to send love to. Start each sentence by I love…
I love …
Now, include yourself.
Take another deep breath in and out.
Now, write down the name of 10 people who have hurt you in some ways.
Start each sentence by I forgive you.
I forgive you …
I forgive you…
I forgive you…
Again, include yourself.
Now, take another deep breath in and out. Your forgiveness offering has been made.
As you take your next inhale, imagine the waves washing over the sand, taking away those memories and releasing you from those wounds through love, kindness and forgiveness. You can now start to walk away from the beach. Open your eyes.