How to identify and crush limiting beliefs - Day 2
Updated: May 1, 2019
Self-limiting beliefs are the worst; they stop us from being our best self. For the next 7 days, I challenge you to take on my Crushing Limiting Beliefs Challenge. Every day, I share a common limiting belief and how to get rid of it. For Day 2, we're crushing statements like "I don't deserve" and other self judgement.
What are self limiting beliefs?
If you’ve missed Day 1 yesterday, you can kick off the challenge here.
In short, here’s the deal: for the next 7 days, I’m taking you on a journey to identify and crush a common limiting belief. Limiting beliefs are those things we tell ourselves that stop us from living our best life but also being our best self.
Yesterday we crushed "I can’t". Today, we’re crushing “I don’t”. Let's do this!
Day 2: I don't
We may define ourselves by what we do or do not do, or how we judge ourselves.
We think 'I don't deserve...' I don’t deserve this person, or this person's love, or this job, and so we stop expecting, seeking or even welcoming those things or beings into our life.
For example, I felt rejected in a previous relationship with respect to intimacy. This was a very painful experience for me, so I could have developed the belief that I don’t deserve to be touched. I didn’t but then I judged myself quite severely – thinking there’s something wrong with me, maybe I should change something in my appearance or in the way I act.
So let’s look at how we can get rid of those “I don’t statements”.
Day 2: It's crushing time!
So, again we might define ourselves with what we do or do not do.
For example, we often introduce ourselves by talking about what we do for a living. I used to be a marketing manager but it took me a long time to realise that marketing was what I did, not who I am. I think that’s why a lot of us can have a little identity crisis when we are out of work - whether because of our health or not. That’s why is so important to separate what we do from who we are.
So, if you catch yourself making those unkind judgement (like in my story earlier), it might be helpful to say these statements out loud:
It's not my job to please people in my life (as caring and as helpful as I want to be).
It's ok to be me.
As humans, we just want to fit in, so I think the antidote is to celebrate our uniqueness!
See you tomorrow for Day 3!