How to identify and crush limiting beliefs - Day 5

Self-limiting beliefs are the worst; they stop us from being our best self. For the next 7 days, I challenge you to take on my Crushing Limiting Beliefs Challenge. Every day, I share a common limiting belief and how to get rid of it. For Day 5, I bring you a special guest to share the 3 most common limiting beliefs.

What are self limiting beliefs?

Hi, Melanie here from Girls Rocking Cancer for Day 5 of our 7-day “crushing limiting beliefs challenge” towards ultimate self-love.

Ok, I promised you a little surprise to kick off our week in style. So, today, I bring you my mum! Not literally of course because "maman" is all the way in Canada but we’re going to learn the art of self love from a French momma.

Lately, I shared mum’s incredible story of overcoming hardship as a post polio survivor. But mum was so much more than a survivor. She was of the only woman at her university and started the first FREE community support service – literally dedicating her life to helping people deal with pain and lost.

In her work, mum has heard it all. So, when I told her about my challenge she shared the top 3 most common limiting beliefs that she heard over the years. If we crushed those together we are literally limitless!

Day 5: the 3 most common limiting beliefs

There you have it:

1. "Je ne suis pas belle" - I'm not beautiful

In mum's words,

It's actually rare that women find themselves beautiful.

2. Je ne suis pas bonne - I'm no good

Mum said people often refer to themselves as "useless" going as far as using the word “rotten”.

3. Je ne suis pas capable - I can't do this

We covered “I can’t” in Day 1 but what mum added here is that often people didn’t even tried!

When talking to mum, I was shocked to see how much pain is due to self-hate in our society. There’s a lot to cover here in 3 minutes So, let’s do today’s challenge now and then stay connected to Girls Rocking Cancer as we’ll be exploring this a lot more!

Day 5: Today's challenge

How many times have you paid a compliment to someone and they looked at you as if you were crazy or just dismissed it altogether saying “don’t be silly”!

I believe that receiving and accepting compliments gracefully is a big part of building our confidence. Another piece of wisdom from a French mum:

There's no such thing as “overconfidence” – confidence is confidence. What we call “overconfidence” is really just a lack of confidence.

Although we want to get to a place where we don’t need external validation to feel beautiful, it can be helpful practising the art of saying thank you when receiving a compliment.

Today, here's your self love challenge:

1. Tell a woman she is beautiful

2. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful – smile!

I believe smiling brings positive energy to others but also to ourselves.

To wrap up, when I asked mum what beauty is she said:

Beauty radiates from the inside out!

That’s it for Day 5 – I’ll see you tomorrow for Day 6.

Ps: you can follow Girls Rocking Cancer on Instagram or Facebook and use the hashtag #crushinglimitingbeliefs to share your own crushing moments.

Love,

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